Landon, my former secondary live in boyfriend, finally decided to make the decision to move out of our home, after I put a little bug in his ear, giving him permission to do so. Landon was never really comfortable living with the tribe & his actions made that clear, such as moving all the way to the basement, rather than sleeping on the top floor with everyone else.
In addition, Landon was not polyamorous. He was monogamous with me. So, although he was accepting of James, because "he was there first", he never really embraced the concept of being a "tribe". From time to time, he would ask questions about what if James & I broke up, would he just have me. My answer was & always will be "No. I was born polyamorous & always will be." Further, he was rarely home, instead often times staying at his elderly grandmother's house, which is closer to his work. Now, he has moved out 80% of his things & is going to live with his grandmother full-time, along with his children, when they visit. All in all, I think everyone is happy with the situation.
I do not think a relationship is a failure, as long as you learned something from it. In the case of Landon, I learned that I should not date someone who is not polyamorous.
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