"that guy"

James & I had a HUGE disagreement last week & I am not sure how it will play out next week.  James & I are in the same industry, although I have an office job, during the day.  The summer is the slowest period for the industry & many people in it have a hard time financially.  Fortunately for James, that has not been the case this year.  He has connected with someone who owns a company & likes James' work.  On a job they are doing out of town for a week, they needed an additional person on the crew.  James recommended his girlfriend of one year, Sarah.  So, James & Sarah are going out of town to work for a week.

Here's why it drives me nuts.  First, Sarah is not in the industry & useless in this situation.  Second, many other adequate people are hungry in the summer & James did not recommend them.  Third, the industry has a reputation for being very incestuousness, with rumors of the reason certain people get cake jobs is because they are fucking someone.  I do not want James to have that reputation.  I don't want him to be "that guy".  Finally & probably the most importantly, I am not interested in sharing my world, including co-workers with Sarah.

I spoke to James, in length, about my feelings.  He said I was over reacting.  However, I definitely have a bad feeling about the whole thing.

At this point, it's too late to change anything.  For a few days I was so miffed at James that for the first time in 5 years, I did not speak to him for several days.  In the end, I missed my best friend & swallowed my anger.  However, I did tell him I will be wonky for the next 2 weeks, knowing he is being disrespectful to many people, even beyond me.

I will let you know how it goes...

Sarah

I don't understand the relationship James, my boyfriend of 5 years, has with his girlfriend of one year, Sarah.  As someone put it, who had spent a week with Sarah, "She is just one of those people who is just there."  She has no life to her.  She is boring.

It irritates me that James would dedicate any time or energy to someone who was not entertaining.  Perhaps it irritates me even more that he must take time & energy away from me to see her.

I know that the reason he sees her is because she allows his penis to be inserted inside of her vagina.  That's pretty much it, although he uses terms like "girlfriend" & "love" when speaking about her.  I just don't get it.

I have been very good over the last 6 months.  I know that I do not understand their relationship & I know that I cannot control it.  Therefore, I should just let it go.  I do that for the most part, although admittedly I do say something snarky, from time to time.

I am hoping the relationship will fizzle out, which is indeed a possibility, considering she lives in another state & both are looking for people to date that are closer.  James & I know a few women who I would love for him to date.  However, its probably easier for him to just keep things as they are.  After all, sex is sex.