Saturday, November 9, 2013

Good-bye, Thomas

I am not longer seeing my booty call, Thomas.  Unfortunately, I no longer have any respect for him, as a result of his dog, of all things.  One night a couple of months ago, I was visiting him overnight & I noticed that his dog was not making much noise.  When I asked about the dog, he replied that she was sick, not eating for several days at a time.  I then said I would be happy to take her to the veterinarian for him, if he did not have the time. When I returned the next week.  The dog was completely silent.  When I asked about her again, he said she had died earlier in the week.

I was stunned.  Because of his pride & his need for privacy, he had not taken the dog to the vet, nor had he asked me to help.  It was then, I realized we were not even friends.  I also realized that as a sex partner, he was lacking, particularity because it took me a two hour round trip to reach him.  He not worth the effort any longer.

The only awkward thing that will occur from time to to time is Thomas being my boss.  It doesn't happen often & when it does, it's not for a long period of time.  For my part, I have not mentioned my disdain for him.  He will not ask, because that would be something that would concern a friend, not a booty call.

Friday, November 8, 2013

Naughty Twat Smell

I am going to share something embarrassing with you, as a lesson for other women.  For years, after reading "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Being a Cheapskate", I stopped wearing underwear.  The premise of the book is that they are unnecessary & cost money to purchase & wash.  So, for years I did not wear them.  Then, for years, my twat smelled.  The kind of smell that was evident, when I squatted, after being a wrench wench in the heat all day.  

I figured it was natural, with all that sweat going on down there.  Whenever I had sex, I always jumped into the bathtub, so it was not a big deal.  However, by the morning, my twat smelled again.  This went on for years, until I started dated another chick.  I noticed that her twat was wonderfully musty in the morning, without an offensive odor.

I decided it was time to do something, so I got some over the counter yeast infection stuff & stuffed it into my twat over night.  It fixed it immediately.  So, I returned to my regularly scheduled program of not wearing panties, not making the connection.

Guess what?  It came back.  So, last night I got more over the counter yeast infection stuff & stuffed it into my  twat for the second time. I also bought some fun underwear, with the Muppets & superheroes.

Hopefully, this will take care of things.  Otherwise, I am heading to the doctor & I hate doctor's rooting around in my twat!

Thursday, November 7, 2013

The Caribbean & James

James, my primary & nesting partner, & I have decided to move to the Caribbean, once my daughter, Virginia, turns 18-years-old, in June of 2014.  However, we will not make a firm decision, until May.  So, for the time being, I am in limbo, thinking about the islands.

There are several things that could delay our move.  Money is always a factor.  According to the government website, we should have at least $15K to move.  Also, if James finds permanent full-time work, with benefits, where we currently are, the move could be delayed by years.  However, even with all of those variables, there is one even more pressing.  James & I haven't had sex in over a year now & I am unwilling to move with him, after July, unless that changes.

I have asked James for more details on his lack of sexual inclination towards me, such as to whether or not he still find me sexually attractive.  He says he does.  I have asked him about possibly having a low testosterone level & seeking medical attention.  He says he does not.  What he says is that he will have a sexual inclination towards me & then there is a disconnect between that point & when he acts upon it.

He is currently dating a new woman named Jessica.  Although they have not had sex, he is certainly pumped for it.  My hope is that once they have sex, that energy will be brought to my relationship with him.

I have explained to James my desire to have sex with him & the time frame I am working with.  Since then, he has become more verbally romantic & seems to be compensating for not having sex with me.  Unfortunately, in the end, words will not be good enough.

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

16 Reasons To Have Daily Sex

16 Reasons To Have Daily Sex

Stressed, burdened with life's difficult problems and fear that your health is declining? Then sex is the answer to happiness, longevity and a healthy body.

You don't agree? 

Well, here is a list of the health benefits of sex, so do it daily to experience complete pleasure. These are 16 reasons to have sex today!

1. De-stress
Sex helps you reduce stress. When deep breathing exercises fail to de-stress you, sex will do the needful.

During sex your body produces dopamine, a substance that fights stress hormones, endorphins, aka "happiness hormones" and oxytocin, a desire-enhancing hormone secreted by the pituitary gland. In a study, published in the Public Library of Science journal, three neuroscience researchers conducted a test on male rats and found that the sexually active rats were less anxious than rats with no sexual activity.

2. Great Form of Exercise
Making love is a form of physical activity. During intercourse, the physiological changes in your body are consistent with a workout. You must have noticed that the respiratory rate rises, which means you get tired. Hence, you burn calories. If you have sex three times a week for 15 minutes (but we know you can do better than that) you'll burn about 7.500 calories in a year. That's the equivalent of jogging 75 miles! Heavy breathing raises the amount of oxygen in your cells, and the testosterone produced during sex keeps your bones and muscles strong.

3. Lowers high blood pressure
Hugs and sex can improve your blood pressure. Sex reduces diastolic blood pressure, that is, the bottom number while reading blood pressure.

Researchers with the University of Paisley conducted an experiment on the same. They concluded that sex improves blood pressure.

4. Builds your immunity
Trying to fight the sniffles? Sex is the answer to fight cold and other health problems; sex can boost your immunity.

Immunoglobulin A, an antigen that fights the flu increases when the frequency of sex increases.

5. Makes You Look Younger
Making love three times a week can make you look 10 years younger, claims a Scottish researcher. "It's good for you to have good sex," says David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, whose study on the effects of sex on aging appears in his book, Secrets of the Superyoung.

6. Healthy heart
Sex helps you burn calories but it can also improve your heart. Sex will take care of stroke and heart attacks, you just have to enjoy the moment.

Scientists with New England Research Institute examined the effect of sex on the heart. The study concluded that men are 45 percent less likely to experience cardiovascular diseases. But the study fails to study the effect of sex on a woman's heart.

7. Pain relief
Pleasure is the measure to beat out the pain. Do you experience migraines and body pain? Well sex is the answer. But if you experience back pain, it is best to consult a doctor.

Dr. George E. Erlich, an arthritis specialist from Philadelphia conducted a study on the link between arthritis and sex. He narrows down that patients who engaged in sex experienced less pain.

8. Builds trust and intimacy
The act of sex spikes the hormone oxytocin; this hormone is responsible for your happiness and love. If your feel your relationship is falling out, there is trust or you're worried that your partner will stray away, then sex will dispel these doubts. The hormone oxytocin builds trust and brings couples closer, and cupid too.

9. Less chances of cancer
Regular ejaculation reduces your chances of developing prostate cancer. In an Australian study men who ejaculated 21 times a month were least likely to develop cancer. It is further supported by other researches that sexual intercourse reduces the risk of prostrate cancer.

10. Stronger pelvic muscles
Sex involves the use of several muscles; hence regular sexual intercourse can help you develop stronger pelvic muscles. Further, since the act of sex involves a range of muscles, it also helps strengthen these muscles - for ex: quads, your core, and the upper back. Through regular sex, you can also maintain a strong bladder and bowel function.

Strong muscles, calorie burner, improves heart health - sex seems to take care of you.

11. Prostate Protection 
Most of the fluid you ejaculate is secreted by the prostate gland. If you stop ejaculating, the fluid stays in the gland, which tends to swell, causing lots of problems. Regular ejaculation will wash those fluids out and ensure the well being of your prostate until old age. Problems may also occur when you suddenly change the frequency of ejaculations.

12. Induces sleep
After that great, lovely workout you are bound to get good sleep. But guess what? Sex works the same way as exercise. The increased heart rate leads to increased post-coital relaxation. Sex could be the next thing for insomniacs! So what really happens:
- Sex can relax you, hence if you are already tired, the act of sex will induce sleep.
- When men ejaculate they become lethargic, this can make them sleepy.

13. Regular periods
Apparently sex can improve your menstrual cycle. Sex regulates hormones, which in turn regulate the menstrual cycle. Sex reduces stress, which is one of the reasons women miss their periods. Sex seems like a better option than pills.

14. Prevents Erectile Dysfunctions
Fifty per cent of men older than 40 suffer from erectile dysfunctions and all young men fear the moment when they won't be able to get it up any more. The best medicine against impotence An erection keeps the blood flowing through your penile arteries, so the tissue stays healthy. Plus, doctors compare an erection to an athletic reflex: the more you train the more capable you are to perform.

15. Live longer
A healthy heart, stronger muscles, increased circulation of oxygen and happiness are some of the factors that add life to the years and as a result - years to your life.

A study published in the British Medical Journal reveals that men who engaged in sex often live twice as those who rarely had any action.

16. Healthier semen
If you're trying to conceive, you increase the volume of semen if you have sex regularly. Regular sex replaces old sperms from the testicles. If there is a natural build of sperms it can lead to DNA damage.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013


From time to time, I have trouble with whores not wanting to work, while they are menstruating.  So, I share with them the joy of SoftCups.  When wearing SoftCups, a women can have full blown sex, without her partner feeling the cup, unless they are super large or have a weird angle.  In that case, if I think my partner may be feeling the cup, I tell them, "Hey, I have a new toy inside.  Can you feel it?"  (It's about how you spin things!)  The best thing about SoftCups is that you can find them at CVS.

Monday, June 10, 2013

BabyDaddie's Girlfriend

I decided to do something I have never done in the past, in regard to my ex-husband & BabyDaddie.  I contacted his current girlfriend to see if she could talk some sense in him, about his unwillingness to pay for half of his child's dental issues.

I absolutely love his girlfriend & I am sure why she remains with him, nonetheless I am very respectful of the position she holds in his life.  So, I went to her & explained that if BabyDaddie did not agree to pay for half of the medical care, as detailed in the divorce degree, I would be forced to go to court.  In that case, the worst possible scenario for him would be paying 70% of the costs, all attorney's fees, all court costs, & hiking up his monthly child support.  That's something I absolutely do not want to do, because in the end, the only people who really win, when going to court, are the attorneys.

The problem is BabyDaddie would be very upset if he found out that Girlfriend & I even discussed him.  So, if she does not pop the conversation on her own, her next in will be when I file the court papers & he is served.  I'm sure she will know immediately, because he will call her immediately to complain.  Hopefully, at that point, she will say something like "Have you talked to an attorney?  Maybe it's a good idea, before you go to court.  It can't hurt."

Fingers crossed...