HUGE sigh of relief

The prison from which the inmate was sending inappropriate letters to my 16-year-old daughter, Virginia, called this morning.  My concern was that when they had the conversation with the inmate about sending the letters that he would find out that I ratted him out & do something to me & my family, since he has our home address.  I know that sounds a little over the top, but the inmate has killed at least one person & attempted to kill one other.  He is also in a notorious gang. Fortunately, the person who spoke to the inmate, simply said the letter was discovered before it left the prison & my name was not brought up.  I am breathing a HUGE sigh of relief.  Hopefully, I will not receive any more letters.  If so, I have been instructed to send them to the security team who has been working with me.

I am really scared

The prison of the inmate who has been inappropriately writing my 16-year-old daughter called me this morning.  They said that my request for the inmate to stop calling and mailing my child has gone through the correct channels.  However, the gentleman said he was unsure as to whether or not the person who actually talked to the inmate put my name in the conversation, although I specifically asked that they did not, out of fear for my safety.  I am really scared & shall remain so, until I know my life is not in danger.

Killer's Letter

I found out recently that Virginia, my 16-year-old daughter, has visited & received love letters from an inmate.  When I did a search for him online, I found out that he killed a teenager & attempted to kill another in a gang murder.  I know that he she went to see him in prison, because inside the card was a picture of her & his family, surrounding him.

I am heartbroken on so many different levels.  First, we do not have a history of gang activity in my family at all & therefore, her being comfortable in such an environment is unacceptable.  Next, the letters he sent her were totally inappropriate for a 16-year-old to receive, including the picture of a dog with an erection on the front of the card.  Then, the only persona who could have gotten into the prison is the mother of the inmate, by wrongfully claiming she belonged to her, thereby making my daughter related.  Finally, after chatting with my family therapist we decided that I cannot have a conversation with anyone involved, including my daughter, the inmate or the inmate's mother, because the inmate has my home address & could do us harm if we take away his "toy".

I did contact the prison & spoke to the head of security & even he was stunned, saying they they rarely receive information like mine.  He said he would prevent the inmate from sending or receiving any mail from my daughter & stop her from visiting him in the prison.  He also agreed he would do so, without involving my name, by saying that "after a mail inspection" they came across the letter, which I returned to the prison.

After issues like this, although I love my daughter, I cannot wait to disassociate myself from her, as we had planned to do, when she turns 18-years-old.  Sadly, now it's a matter of life or death.